How to stay positive at holiday parties
Not too thrilled to show up to holiday parties and or family events? In this video, discover how to stay positive at holiday parties.
You got those holiday parties on your calendar and when you think of them you have a pit in your stomach. You’re just not thrilled at all to show up to a specific holiday party whether it’s a work party, whether it’s a family party, whether it’s a friend party, you just don’t want to go.
This time of year can be a truly stressful time of year without throwing in the added drama of holiday parties.
If you can relate, keep reading. I’m going to break this down for you in three steps: what you can do before the party, at the party, and after the party when you’re at home. If you have a piece of paper and a pencil, you may want to write these tips down to use this as a strategy to help you get through holiday parties or family events.
Before the event
Prepare Your Outfit Ahead of Time
Place your clothes, jewelry, perfume, and makeup somewhere so you have it on the ready just boom, boom, boom you’re ready to go and you can be ready in like 15 minutes or so.
Allow Time for Preparation
Allow yourself enough time in your schedule to prepare for that moment, when you’re going to get ready to alleviate all that stress.
Plan Your Look in Detail
It is really important to have this planned out. Before the party, you have a lot on your mind.
Be easy on yourself and prepare your clothes and makeup in advance, if you’re choosing to wear makeup.
Know what you’re going to do with your hair ahead of time.
Plan everything out so you don’t stress about finding socks or shoes at the last minute.
Eliminate extra stress by planning every detail, so you’re not scrambling to find something while getting ready.
At the moment you’re getting ready for the party, stay calm and organized without panicking about missing items.
Consider a Dress Rehearsal
I would even advise a dress rehearsal with what you’re going to wear so that you know for a fact you feel good in the attire that you have chosen.
Schedule Beauty Appointments in Advance
If needed, be sure to schedule appointments for manicures, pedicures, for your hair, to have your hair cut, or for a shave. Whatever it is that you need to have done for your physical appearance, make sure to schedule those appointments beforehand so that you feel like you’re a million bucks before you even walk into that party.
Be Aware of the Image-Oriented Society
Since we live in an image-orientated society, feelings about our physical appearance and self-esteem are often related as much as we don’t want that to be, it is the case.
Use Power Perfume or Scent
The next thing is to put on your power perfume, your power cologne, your power essential oil, whatever it is, put that on so that you have that aroma around you.
Wear Jewelry for Confidence and Peace
If you have a specific amulet or a specific piece of jewelry that gives you a feeling of peace and confidence, I would be sure to wear that as well.
Have an exit strategy
Stay positive at holiday parties by setting time boundaries. If the event might be uncomfortable, create an exit strategy.
Allow yourself to stay for only two hours, then say you have to be somewhere at a specific time. Maybe you need to get home to make cookies or pick someone up—whatever it is, create an exit strategy.
You can even set a subtle alarm on your phone to trigger when it’s time to go.
Prepare this in advance, so you can rehearse your exit strategy in your mind before the party.
Energetic hygiene practice
Prepare yourself to stay positive at holiday parties by cleaning out your energy. Once you’re dressed up and ready to go, give yourself what I call an energetic shower. This way you can clean your energy and go to the event with a clean slate.
If you have anything staying inside of you, like sticky energy, clear it out before the party. Specifically, if it’s connected to someone at the party or an event from the past, clear it out.
I see this process like a magnetic etch-a-sketch, clearing all the energy that doesn’t serve you. You don’t want magnetic filings hanging in your energy as you walk into the party.
So, how do you have an energetic shower? While standing upright, connect to the light from above and below. With your hands, clean specific parts of your body three times. Shake your hands with the intention that negative energy turns to positive energy.
Start with your hands over your head, shoulders, and arms, moving down your body. Clean the back of your body, front of your legs, and from your waist down.
Place yourself in a disco ball
Stay positive at holiday parties by imagining yourself inside a mirrored disco ball or ornament. I love using mirrors. Picture yourself surrounded by a beautiful, faceted ornament on a Christmas tree, or a mirrored disco ball.
Put yourself inside that disco ball, and this way, any energy coming at you won’t get absorbed into your energetic field. Instead, it will be sent back to the person who sent it. If the person is giving positive energy, it returns to them as positive energy. If it’s negative energy, it goes back to them, and you won’t hold on to it.
Do this right at the door of the party, before even walking in. Imagine yourself inside the disco ball.
At the event
I’m sure you’ve fallen into a situation where someone may ask you a question that’s not in the most positive light. If they’re asking in a condescending way, you can answer with, “How are you and your wife doing? How’s your husband? How are those business trips going?” Simply turn it around and deflect the question if you don’t want to answer it.
Or, if you know the question might come up, prepare an answer in advance and rehearse it. That way, when they ask, you’ll be ready and respond smoothly. You could say something like, “Did you try that chili dip on the table?” or “The punch is amazing; I need that recipe!” Play it cool, ask a question back, or refer to something happening at the party.
If it becomes too much, take a bathroom break. Do a quick meditation, connect with the light, and if necessary, take an energetic shower. Inhale four times to bring in positive energy, exhale four times to release negativity.
Get re-centered and head back out.
After the party
You survived the party! You use your exit strategy and you got out of there. Now you are about to walk in your own front door.
I’d like you to at that point give yourself another energetic shower and clear everything out before you walk in the door of your house.
A great thing to do is to head into the bathtub or in the shower with epsom salts. The salts take out the negative energy, the toxins that you may have absorbed.
Light some candles and experience some aromatherapy with lavender or Clary Sage essential oils.
If you have time after that party, take yourself and/or your dog for a walk in nature. Give your pets some Lovins.
Brew some Sleepytime tea like chamomile tea, to drink to be super relaxed so you can go to sleep and know that you did a good job.
Hug yourself and say I love you. You are a Survivor and you did it.
Every day we have a choice and every second we have that choice to think something positive or think something negative.
Congratulations to you for reading this post, and creating a plan to feel empowered as you go to that holiday party.
I’m sure with these tips you’re going to feel a lot better having a strategy in place.
Please share this post with anybody that you know that needs some help with holiday party survival so that they too can have a strategy to get them through the holiday parties.
If you’d like more High Vibe tips, download my raise your vibration guide to get you started on living your life within the law of vibration and using the law of vibration to attract what you desire. Happy holidays. Ciao.
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